Shahada

by Fatima Barkatulla

www.muslimmotherhood.blogspot.com

Brother ARG I have to tell you about this because I've learnt many da'wah points of wisdom from you and other Du'at:

The message of the Prophet reaches another heart:

Ma sha Allah a few weeks ago in Birmingham I had the opportunity by the grace of Allah to take a sister's Shahadah. It was the first time somebody repeated the Shahadah after me and so I found it very moving as I had been making du'a that Allah would give me that chance. It went something like this (I've called her 'D'):

D had been told that she could attend the tarbiyah programme to get to know more about Muslims, so she was sitting in the tarbiyah programme hall and had been observing us teaching salaah, wudhu and recitation of Suratul Fatiha with Tajweed. Then after my talk I was walking past her when it looked like she wanted to say something. So I went over to her and asked her if all was OK.
"How are you finding it?"
"Good...yeah....er...I just wanted to ask you what a person has to do to become a Muslim."
"Oh." I said, "you think you might like to?"
"Well, I don't really know how to do anything and I don't know if I could do it all..."
"Well you know, it takes time and slowly slowly you learn more everyday and do more. You can't be expected to do everything all at once or know everything all at once. Look at us....even we are still learning." I said. She nodded. "So look, do you believe that there is only One God and He alone deserves to be worshipped?"
"Yeah" she said...she had been reading and learning and she was definitely sure about that one.
"OK, and do you know about the Prophet Muhammad?"
"Well, I've read about him"
"OK, so are you convinced that he was a Prophet of God. The last messenger?
"Yes."
"You accept that?" I was getting excited by now!
"Yes."
"Then you are already a Muslim. You just need to declare it so that you acknowledge it to God and to us Muslims. That's the Shahadah, you're testifying that there is nothing worthy of worship except Allah, the One and Only God and that Muhammad is the messenger of God." She nodded sweetly. "So, D, are you ready? You don't have to do it on the microphone or anything."
A pause.
"The most important thing now is to declare what you believe. So that you'll be counted as a Believer. Because we don't know what could happen to any one of us when we walk out of this place tonight. May Allah protect us but we don't know when death will come."
She looked down, nodding and then raised her head and said "Yeah. I'm ready."
Then I sat down next to her. Some sisters had figured out something big was going on and had begun to congregate around us. Some sat next to her.
"Could you explain what I have to say first."
"Yeah. You say Ash hadu Allaa ilaaha illallah. Wa Ash hadu anna muhammadan rasoolullah. Which means, I bear witness or I testify that there is nothing worthy of worship except Allah. And I bear witness that Muhammad is the messenger of Allah. OK?" She nodded. "What was your religion before this?" I asked.
"Nothing" she said. I'd asked her, to make sure that if she had been a Christian, that she definitely believed that Jesus was a Prophet and not the son of God. Sometimes Christians find that concept hard to let go of, but in her case it wasn't an issue.
"OK so repeat after me. We'll say it in Arabic and then in English."
Then she repeated the Shahadah after me in Arabic. In the middle of it I couldn't stop the tears flowing and had to stop for a moment to gather myself. I found it so moving at that moment to feel that the message of the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) had indeed reached so far, over the world and that we, in the middle of Rum (Rome as the Arab's called Europe at that time) were sitting here taking a persons declaration of faith in the message that that kind shepherd, the orphan who became the leader and liberator of Arabia had come with (sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam) How truly momentous each and every Shahadah is. It reminds me of the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam at his farewell pilgrimage when he was so careful to ask the people gathered at Arafah "Have I conveyed the message?" And they replied in unison "Yes!" And he said to Allah "Oh Allah bear witness!"

And in this Hadeeth: One day when the Prophet returned from a journey and went to Fatima’s house, Fatima welcomed him and kissed his face, his mouth and his eyes and wept. “Why do you cry?” the Prophet asked. “I see you, O Rasul Allah,” she said, “Your colour is pale and sallow and your clothes have become worn and shabby.” “O Fatima,” the Prophet replied tenderly, “don’t cry for Allah has sent your father with a mission which He would cause to affect every house on the face of the earth whether it be in towns, villages or tents (in the desert) bringing either glory or humiliation until this mission is fulfilled just as night (inevitably) comes.”

How I wished I could tell the Prophet how far his message had come! "Yes! Oh Prophet of Allah...you indeed conveyed the message! The whole world testifies!"

Then she completed repeating the Shahadah after me in Arabic and then in English. By now a large crowd of sisters had gathered around us. All silently observing this miracle. The miracle of Hidaayah or guidance. How Allah turns a person towards Him and guides them and makes them into our Sisters and Brothers in Islam. The sisters embraced her and called out Takbeers. One sister who had embraced Islam just a few months earlier said to her "You've made the right decision sister. You won't regret it!"
I encouraged the sisters not to allow this to be the end of their love and enthusiasm for this sister. That is was our responsibility to open up our homes, to really make this sister a member of our families.

Some responsible sisters took on the role of being mentor to her and exchanged email addresses and phone numbers. We emphasised Salah to her (even just doing the actions and reciting some basic things like Subhan Allah, Alhamdulillah and Allahu Akbar during salah until she learns it properly and keeping away from Major sins....insha Allah over time, by keeping to Salah she will become stronger and do more and more.

I felt like it was the best day of my life so far and when I got home I did Sajdah of Thanks to Allah.

Comments

[Mohammed Maaz]

AsSalamu Alaika

Brother I'm actually not very sure as to who is this addressed whether to God or to an Emperor or the Country, since after looking up more into the matter it seems to be a conflict among ppl of the nation as who was this addressed to?

http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/111877
This is what www.islamqa.com had to say regarding this issue. Can not perfect tawheed be called a form of shirk? [See Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (1/235) in the link above.]

Thanks a lot for clearifying my doubt over this. To sum it all up, should I take the ruling as "its not permissible to respect the national anthem or flag (specially) but its not shirk too right?"

ARGcomment: I'm not giving any fatwa's bro, so lets stick with what the ulema have said in this regard. The fatwa, alhamdulillah is clear. Certainly if it is not shirk (which it might be in certain circumstances) it can lead to it.

[Aboo Uthmaan]

As-salaamu 'alaikum

How are you Br. 'Abdur-Raheem?

If you wish you do not need to approve this message since it is not realted to the post, but instead can just reply directly to my email address This is the only way I know how to contact you, hence this mode of contact.

I am actually looking for a lecture you delivered entitled: "What is Means to be a Muslim", do you know how I can get hold of this lecture?

Jazak'Allaahu khairan!

ARGcomment: It is a lecture I have delivered many times, but I don't know where to find it. Inshallah, I hope in the future to take more care in recording and putting my lectures on line.

[Mohammed Maaz]

Asak,

JazakAllahu Khairan bro. It was great to have this conversation with you. Its helped me realize many things and learn a lot too. Plz do remember me in your prayers.
Shukran!

ARgcomment: Ameen

[Noamaan Mohammed Khan]

Assalamualaikum!! I thank sister fathima for her advice!! I thank u sir too!! Sir i've decided to call u brother from now. I hope i'm not doin anything wrong. I hav a very serious issue and i'm confused!! Many scholars are agaist the famous writer HARUN YAHYA. What is ur opinion regards him?? Actually his documentries helpd me a lot in my earlier days of learin Islaam(self strugle). I actually understood that Allah is the creator when i saw "THE FACT OF CREATION" doc by HARUN YAHYA!! Then i thought more on this issue and finally realised the concept of tawheed through the beautifull lectures by Dr. Bilal philips and ur's!!! I like reading his books as they give me scientific knowledge and reasoning to refute prevalent ideologies!! What should i do?? Salaam!!

ARGcomment: It is the job of schoalrs to point out errors and mistakes where they see it. Of course one can benefit from Harum Yahyah's books, but one must realize his is not a schoar, and clearly not grounded in aqeeda etc...
So it is good you look benefit from him in this area, but you much better of with bilal philips in learning the correct creed etc...
Please do call me brother. Inshallah, I hope that is what we are.

[Hollie]

I wanted to thank you for the lessons you shared in Toronto last weekend. Saturday was my first time ever being in a room of Muslims. I left that eveing feel overwhelmed yet enlightened in many ways.In the past few weeks I have been looking more at the Islamic faith and was wondering if there is any reading you might reccomend? Most of what I have been reading have been from online sources and I have gotten an English translation of the Koran that I am reading.
ARGcommment: The Quran is a good start! I'd also recommend reading a good life history of the Prophet, I recommend "The Sealed Nectar". There are many good introductory books on Islam. "Towards Understaning Islam", "A Brief Illustated Guide to Islam" are also good. I have heard good things about the Dummies guide to Islam, although I haven't read it myself.

[Fatima Barkatulla]

Also for a more detailed introduction to all important aspects of Islam there are the following two books: 'Islam Beliefs and Teachings' by Ghulam Sarwar is a classic. Or 'Islam the Natural Way' by Abdul Wahid Hamid.

May Allah guide you to the Truth. Aameen

[Siti Roqayah]

"If we have abandoned jihad, if the kings and presidents and armies and nations who are equipped with the material means to fight a legitimate war do not do so..."
As far as I know within the Muslim Nations it is not a matter of "IF" anymore but rather that WE HAVE. And waiting for a Caliphate to rule the whole Muslim Nations as one of the solutions to fight in the Islamic manner, "fight the fighters, soldier against soldier, armies against armies" is like waiting for your Boss to have a major change of heart on giving you a raise for your next paycheck. It will happen but only God knows when. So, in the meantime, while giving dawa and abandoning the "following of our whims and fancies", are there any more solutions that you can think of that are considered the legitimate Jihad when "those who can fight legitimately refuse" or should we just live the life of the man in "Jelabiyya" who keeps running, dodging, crawling in the dirt and witnessing the death of our family members one by one while waiting for "the kings, and the president" to command their armies and nations to fight the legitimate war for us?

Salam

ARGcomment: there is a reason why Allah made the Prophet and his companions suffer for 13 years in Mecca, ordering them with patience, and not allowing them to retaliate. However I want to clarify that I don't think that one has to wait for the Khilafa to defend oneself and land from attack and invasion! My point is that terrorsim is product of fustration.
Also the "if" does not mean hear to open the possibility of ambiguity in the matter, but means "since this is the case."

[Sr. Jenny]

Asalaam Alaikum Br Green

This comment is actually in response to your most recent post "The Day My Daughter Died..." I believe you couldn't have said it better. This conversation was one I have had recently had-- You make two critical points, the fact that we are indeed all ONE ummah and not a north american or palestinian or iranian ummah... one ummah and therefore we must act as one, protecting those who need protecting standing up for the oppressed and standing for Islam. And two-- that not participating in jihad causes terrorism. I wish I could elaborate on various discussions recently had, but it is not of benefit or wise. Insha'Allah your post will benefit our ummah.

On a different note-- This is Jenny who converted in Winnipeg Canada-- I was at the Toronto conference recently. It was a pleasure to hear you speak again. May Allah bless you and all of the others who imparted their knowledge on those who attended. JazakAllah khair

ARGcomment: ....and it was so nice to see your husband and lovely baby daughter!

[Siti Roqayah]

As a Muslim who is familiar with the journey of the Prophet, the patience remark is obviously a given, but I still appreciate the reminder. Living the life of the man in the "Jelabiyya" patiently wouldn’t hv bn a problem in the time of the Prophet since the Muslims were able to count on their Leader to fight the Jihad for n w/ them. Retaliation was also never amount to materialized either simply bcs of that. Realizing what has become to the Muslim’s world today where the leaders are no more than the illusive protectors and the armies r only good for some Independence Day exhibitions, I began to think that patience is a far fetch solution. I asked whether you could provide any other solutions in regards to defending ourselves from attack and invasion beside patience which could still be considered legitimate jihad, apart from the ones mentioned in my previous comment. Anyway brother, thanks for your response. May we always be in His guidance of truth. Amin
Salam

[Noamaan Mohammed Khan]

Salam brother!! I was recently wondering as to what was it that attracted u in the qur'an?? I jst happend to see one of ur videos on net and got a brief answer!! But i wud prefer asking u directly. What was it which made u think that qur'an is the word of god?? What was ur perception of god before coming to qur'an?? I do know about those matters of which u usually speak in ur lectures.............i hope u know what is it which i'm askin u!! As far as my case...........i'm born in a muslim family and happend to read "qur'an and mordern science" by Bucaile which attracted me to the religion!! After looking into scientific data present in the qur'an i believd it to be the word of God, but i dont know why dont i feel it!! I mean whenever i read qur'an, i dont feel as if i'm readin the word of God!! i do belive it being from god but i think there must be a feel from inside which will get ur attention and make u to follow it immediatly!! I dont know why m i goin through this state!! Was it the case with any of Companions of our prophet?? I sometimes get confused and distressed! My mind is not in a state of smooth flow! There r many ups and downs!! I'm very affraid!

ARGcomment: my feeling were based on comparing the Quran with the other scriptures that I had read. When I compared the Quran with them it was so superior. The concept of God, the descriptions of the paradise, hellfire and judgment, the clear guidance as well as scientific matters all together convinced me. Sometimes thoughts like these come to my mind, but we are reading Quran without understanding, or translation of Arabic. This can never be the same as reading as an arab. We must remember then that we are only getting a hint. You should focus on the fact that you reading Allah's words, and make yourself feel as if it is Allah talking to you, not wait for such a feeling to come.

[Mohammed Maaz]

AsSalamu Alaika,

Brother there seems to be a difference of opinion in scholars wrt the treatment of an apostate, some say that the person who goes out of islam and then propagates against islam should be killed while some say that even if the person doesnt propagate, after giving a certain period of time for re-thinking (3 days) the person must be killed (opinion of shaikh saleh al-munajjid {www.islamqa.com} and others quoting references supporting their view from Ibn Taimiyah)
Which one is correct? and one of my friend was asking me why is the killing required? Doesnt this contradict the fact that Islam has no complusion?

Jazakallahu Khairan!

ARGcomment: Very good question that deserves a proper answer that I can do justice in a comment. Inshallah, I'll deal with that soon. Connected is my previous post on harsh islamic punishments.

[Noamaan Mohammed Khan]

I thank u for ur reply and help!! I'm not waitin for such a feeling to come but affraid of not having such feelings!! i asked u if u too had such doubts so that i may relax a little!! What is the best thing to do to feel closer to Allah and get ride of such doubts?? And which translation of qur'an wud u advise me to read!! I started with Abdullah yousuf ali's translation then moved to Tafsir ibn kathir.............now read both side by side!! Plz advise me the best brother!!

ARGcomment: I'd read as many different translations as possible. I like Yusph Ali for general reading, but there is also the Noble Quran, and a nice translation called the Majestic Quran by the Nawawi foundation.
The best way to get close to Allah is by increasing on the deeds that Allah has made obligatory.

[S. Roqayah]

Hello ARG, How are you bro?
Your recent post is a bit closer to home so sorry if I seem a bit persistent. There are 2 points that I’d like to discuss with you if possible.
1.I find this very interesting: "Suicide bombing is just that, suicide, and when it is combined with the murder of civilians it is just that, murder......unless we remove the causes we will never cure the disease". If I’m not mistaken you’re implying that the suicidal act and murdering are the result of people’s actions because they are sick/diseased. I thought at some point you said it happens because these people are frustrated with their "kings and presidents" who choose to be severely impotent in protecting their own people. It’ll make more sense, to me at least, if it says: unless we remove the causes OF the disease we will never cure people’s frustration or the suffering or the humiliation or the whatever. 2. About the difference between Mecca and now. I think, in Mecca there was actually the means for a measured legitimate response. Back then since everything was clear, who fought on our side and the enemy, it had left the civilian – the women, children and the old - remain just that, the civilian. There was no need for them to cross the line to respond illegitimately (there were some occasional illegitimate responses but they did it by choice not bcz the leaders did not do any service for them). Back then, whenever problems arose from either sides of the civilians (Muslims or the enemy), then both sides would give their complaints to their own leaders. Their leaders would then try to solve the problems by either engaging in a war or through peace agreement. Today, there is NOT. Surely, we have the means to respond but that’s just it, the means to respond/ ineffective. No strong leadership, no clear cut battle situation, no nothing. The result: "terrorism"! In such of an uncertainty, do civilians nowadays are really civilians? NO! They are potential soldiers. The different is only in the uniform.
Salam

ARGcomment: Civilians are civilians, whatever their "potential", and this is exactly the same as in the time of the Prophet. In fact in Arabia certainly there were no standing armies. Every soldier once outside the battle field was a civilian, so the case was even more pertinent then. This is why the custom prevalent at the time was that if a city resisted invasion for example, every adult male was considered a combatant. This is not the case today, and the division between civilian and soldier is more clear not less in most cases, but Allah knows best.
As for the issue of disease, well strictly it is correct that suicide bombing and terrorism are symptoms of a disease, that is as you correctly stated, the inertia of those who govern the Muslim lands, which is itself in fact a product of another disease, or diseases..wahn, ignorance, lack of iman etc..etc...but linguistically it is still acceptable as i stated. Allahu alim.

[Mohammed Maaz]

ASAK,

Bro can you pls tell me about the treatment of an apostate in Isalm? With the logic behind it? As its one of the common qs the attackers of islam pose!

ARGcomment: I responded to this in a previous comment. Inshallah I will post on it when I have time.

[Noamaan Mohammed Khan]

Salam bro!! I had the same question that brother Maaz had...........but i got to hear a good lecture on it by Riaz Ansari at International Peace Conference on TV!! I could not find that video anywhere.........may be u can get is easily!! I cud not continue with its episodes but found very reasonable arguments and proofs!! And i thank u for ur advise brother!! I love u brother!!

[Noamaan Mohammed Khan]

Salam bro.........forgot to write in the previous comment. There are few groups who advise not to read abdullah yusuf ali's translation..........i dont know why but i continued doing that as i liked it!! I wud also love to have ur opinion with regards to cloth(pants) going below ankles and min requirment or min length of the beard?? I know the general view but i only need ur personal opinion!!

ARGcomment: You should keep the trousers above the ankles according the warning of the Prophet about those who drag or lower the garment below the ankle, and the beard should be left to grow. It is better to trim it after it reaches below a fist as many companions are reported to have done this. You can trim the beard further, but it must remain as a beard. Growing the beard is an obligation, and removing it is a transgression. Allah knows best.
As for the Yusuf Ali translation then it is acceptable, however it his commentry notes that are seriously flawed. The Saudi's did a good job of polishing to up and removing the most errernous parts, so if you get hold of that that would be best.

[Asif Riffat]

As Salam Alaykum!

Brother ARG, I have one suggestion regarding those who are embracing Islam and who are already Muslim. There is a very important issue of finding a pious practicing spouse these days, those who embrace Islam need to find their spouses in order to continue their new life, and those who are already Muslim are also in need to find their spouses who are willing to live their life according to the teachings of Islam.

Is there any possibility that we can arrange spouses for them so that they can find peace and tracquility in their life? This will help those a lot who have embraced Islam recently because they have to face a lot of difficulties and in these times of difficulties if someone can become their partner who can help them to learn about and practice Islam would be great.

Please, I would like to read the comments of all the participants and last but not the lease the comments of Brother ARG.

Was Salam Alaikum!

ARGcomment: This is a good point and important issue. Although I am not sure where you are from Asif, but here is UK the community is warming up to the idea of marrying converts. In fact a good number of second and third generation Muslims here in UK prefer a convert and activly seek it. As to this being the best thing, we shall leave to Allah. Sufficient is the advice and command of the Prophet to marry the pious and be successful, and do not refuse to marry your daughters if someone proposes as long as you are happy with their deen and character.

[Roqayah]

To brother Maaz.
This is what I believe. An apostate by definition is a traitor. A traitor's life holds NO VALUE in the eyes of the Lord thus he/she is also WORTHLESS to the rest of us. The punishment for Allah's traitor is DEATH. It doesn't matter if we kill them on the spot or wait for certain period of time. No compulsory is for the Non Muslims. An apostate is a Muslim who is a traitor. Obviously if you took the time to understand your own questions you will definitely find there are NO CONTRADICTIONS since both rules apply differently. No disrespect to brother ARG who took the time to answer your questions. I realized the brother did that cz he holds greater responsibility than I do upon the implications of his answers. Salam

ARGcomment: firstly it is important to understand that in islam we are not entitled to take the law into our own hands. no one has the right to unilaterally impliment such a punishment, otherwise we would all end up slaughtering each other upon every accusation of kuffr. Secondly there is some discussion about how, who and under what conditons such a punishment is implimented. Inshallah we will deal with that at a later time.

[Roqayah]

To brother Maaz
Correction. What was i thinking. Allah's traitor? that doesn't even make sense. what i meant to say was the punishment for a traitor to Allah is DEATH or just simply the punishment for a traitor is death. Salam

[Noamaan Mohammed Khan]

Salaam bro!! U gav a good reply!! Actually i asked those questions in a hurry, i needed some details if possible!! How can we justify the cutting of beard even further than one fist?? Also....Is shaving haraam or growing small beard also?? I used to hav small beard........then i grew it as i saw many scholars doing that......but now its back to what i had earlier!! I need a good reference if possible!! I hav my friend who said there is not any evidence of prophet peace be upon him or companions cutting beard, so cutting(trim) is not allowed!!
Apart from that, when r u coming to India next? Plz inform me as i'l try to meet u!! I hav a strong desire to meet u!!

ARGcomment: inshallah, I'll be in India next year for the peace conference.

[Haneefa]

Salam ARG! I notice your not on the old facebook, which is a shame, today I found a group dedicated to you!!! I joined unashamedly as one of your dedicated fans!

ARGcomment: I seriously don't have time for it. It wasn't made by me, but thanks for joining

[Palwasha Jogezai]

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem,
As-Salaamo Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Baarakaatuhu.

I would like to know I have the Tafsir of Abu Al-Ala Maudadi (hope I spelled correctly), and, I heard on T.V. a scholar saying he read tafsir of many Mufasareens. I was wondering, did he do so to become a Scholar of Islam or is it obligatory on us to read tafsirs of many Muafasareens too?

And, teacher ARG, "The Day My Daughter Died" is really really...that moved me to tears...honestly...without exaggeration...!!!

And, I don't know much about Politics thing...All I know is that this all is hapening because our hearts are not soft...why would Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta 'Aala be Merciful to us if we are not merciful to the people of the Earth??!

Every Muslim needs to stick to Sunnah...but, we don't do that...how many new things have we invented...This is the Perfect Deen and the Completed 'un!!!

My message to the readers is to try to ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta 'Aala to save us form Bid'ahs and to make us soft-hearted Muslims; especially in the next month of Blessings!!

May we all have the Blessed Ramadaan...Aamien Aamien Aamien!!

Keep up the good work, teacher Abdur Raheem Green!!

Jazaka Allahu Khairan. "May Allaah Reward you with good" Aamien Aamien Aamien!!

Looking forward to receiving your answer

ARGcomment: there is a lot of benefit in that tafseer with lots of very good information for modern readers. However he made some mistakes for which some scholars criticized him a lot for. ibn Kather is much safer and authentic.

[Noamaan Mohammed Khan]

Salaam brother! I was waiting for your reply. Any way i still hav the doubt regarding beard as Sheik Al-Munajjid has posted the fatwaa on his website! Here is the link and i wud be pleased to hav your reply! Plz send me a better argument if u hav one. The point to be noted here is with regard to removing a part of beard which he claims to be haraam!!
http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/1189/beard

ARGcomment: There is disagreement on the issue of how much you can remove, and what is an order concerning this from the texts and what is recommended. It is best to leave your beard to grow, and cut it after a fist. This is what I do.

[Noamaan Mohammed Khan]

Salaam bro! I wud also like u to see these links:
http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/48960/beard
http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/13660/beard

I'm not a scholar as u know, nor can i hav my own interpretation! So i wud like to hav your opinion with this regard and support or evidence for what u stated earlier with regards to beard!!
But to tell u something, the idea of rejecting a gharib hadeeth comes like a surprize to me! Being Ghareeb may not mean that it is fabricated! But scholars know better and Allah knows best!!

ARGcomment: One does not reject it such a hadith because it is ghareeb out right, but the issue is does it contradict something more authentic or established! However it seems the hadith is not only ghareeb but in fact weak, as he states. Allah knows best.

[Mohammed Maaz]

AsSalamu ALaika,

Brother recently I heard of a hadith that said that the mother of the believers Ayesha (may Allah be pleased with her) had three stages of her relationship with the messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) where in she said that the first stage was where she hated him almost that she wanted to hit/kill him. Second that she respected him so much that she didnt even look upto him at all in his presence. And third maybe (since i'm not sure) that she loved him more than anything else.

Can you help me with this? I can understand this... why did she hate him? i thoguht initially that maybe coz her marraige with him took her away from her parents, but then her marraige was willingly done with her consent right? Its put me into some sorts of confusion over the past 2-3 days. Pls help me out!

JazakAllahu Khairan!

ARGcomment: I can be sure that there is no such hadith and this is a lie. Be careful from where you take information!