This a continuation of some thoughts from a blog "The Past is History" on May 14th Muslima.
So you need to read that first!
What an important few paragraphs you have written.
How completely indicative of the state the Muslims are in, how far we are from the example of the Prophet (saws)!
There is a famous saying of Omar ibn al Khattab, that he was afraid for the Muslims when they would become ignorant of what is ignorance.
So I have an answer for your query, about why they ask about the things that you have given up and don't you miss them?
The reason is that people asking themselves yearn for these things. Love of life has entered the hearts, and longing for Allah and His paradise has waned. They see only the superficial joy and freedom that a "modern" and "western" life offers, but have no real idea of the inner torment and confusion that permeates most of the lives of the people who are in it. Even if they themselves have eaten from those "forbidden fruits", still they have never experienced the darkness that is kufr. That utter confusion about whether that thing was even wrong or not, and if it is wrong how come its feels so good, but then how come I never really seem to be fulfilled? These are the subconscious questions that parody a person lost in the darkness, stumbling through life not really knowing where he or she is going. A Muslim, however sinful, can never know that, simply because by virtue of being one "who surrenders themselves to Allah" they know and accept the true criteria that distinguishes right from wrong, they know when and where they are leaving the path, because they know what the right path is and how to get back to it, they have the map!
So they wonder how it was to make a little "excursion" here and there into forbidden zones that really do look rather nice compared to the steep path they know they have to tread. They can't comprehend the utter and complete blessing of knowing the path in the first place, of having been born and raised on it!
But we had to make a choice. Yes we grazed on golden fields and played in pleasant streams, yet we also knew that those fields and streams had hidden dangers. Sometimes, many times, we were bitten or worse. And then we saw this path. A steep, rocky, challenging path, but there was something that drew us to it. When we looked at it carefully, and thought, we began to realize that maybe that was the way out of the confusion.
People warned us against it, and told us that those traversing this
path were violent, backward, insane and deluded. They mocked and abused
and even physically attacked the people of the path.
Yet for some unfathomable reason, a blessing for which we have no idea what we did to deserve, Allah guided us onto that path, and yes it was steep and hard, but oh the joy, oh the bliss to know, and to know for sure that this was the way, and from that path we could see, and all became clear, and we realized what complete and utter darkness we had been in before that, and so that put a spring in our step, and made the path seem easy, and we smiled and thanked Allah.
Then those people on the path, the ones traversing it from birth, never knowing life without it, wondered at our joy! Don't you miss those streams and fields and orchards and that easy life they say? And we look at them and wonder if they might be slightly mad!But then we remember that we, the people of the path are a brotherhood. For all our faults, and all our failings we have something that binds us.
We, the newcomers, chose the path. They, those born to it, choose to stay on the path!
And we are brethren of the path.
So we make excuses. Us for their ignorant curiosity and them for our zealousness. We forgive and overlook, and help each other along the way, because without that maybe none of us would succeed in reaching the destination.
Surah Al Balad
1. I swear by this city (Makkah);
7. Thinks he that none sees him?